Joining me today in The Loft is author Dominique Wild. Dominique pens erotic and contemporary romance, and erotica. Her stories explore love and sex through the lens of BDSM, polyamory, and queer relationships. Dominique loves a cozy blanket, cup of tea, and a sexy read on a cold night. She spends her days in the warm parts of the U.S. and can often be found gardening, walking, doing yoga, and reading. Dominique believes the only sin is not following your heart.
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S: Welcome, Dominique! Thanks for joining me in The Loft!
Do you believe true romance–the wooing, courtship, passion, seduction, the little gestures of affection, etc.–is dead?
D: Nope – romance will never die. I do think it has changed. There’s a lot more acceptance of casual sex, which doesn’t require romance at all. I generally think that’s a good thing–women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting sex, like men aren’t–but that means you have to work at finding the romance, if that’s what you’re looking for. But romantic souls have always been here, and they aren’t going anywhere.
S: I think that’s what many miss. Romance requires work, it doesn’t happen spontaneously.
What do you appreciate more–Brains or brawn/beauty?
D: Brains, for sure. Brawn and beauty are fantastic, don’t get me wrong, but if you can’t make me laugh or think or have a decent conversation we aren’t going to last very long.
S: When I was younger, a much more mature man said to me, “Why don’t you just sit there and look pretty?” I was pretty insulted, but since then, I cannot believe how many times I have wanted to say that to a man.
If you had to do it all over again, would you still choose to write books?
D: Absolutely. I’m a creative soul. I get depressed and cranky if I can’t express myself through writing. It’s how I explore, think, and process. Those needs will never go away, even if I don’t have as much time for it as I wish I did.
S: When those stories are fighting to be told, the only solution is to put them on paper.
What inspires your stories?
D: Tons of things. Personal experience. Fantasy. Articles I’ve read about kink, polyamory or the queer experience. Dreams. Movies or books I’ve watched or read that ended differently than I would have done it. The good old, “What if?” question. And sometimes, a desperate need to write something that has been knocking around in my head for ages, because I know it won’t go away until I write it.
S: What famous book do you wish you had written? Why?
D: I’ve got to say, “50 Shades of Grey,” because then I would have made enough money to quit my job and write full-time. That’s a little bit of a facetious answer, though. I’d have written the books differently than James did, and they may not have been the same hit as hers. But love them or hate ‘em, she changed the public conversation around romance and kink, and I have to give her credit for that.
S: While I am envious of the marketing machine James had behind her books, I felt she perpetuated a fantasy of what D/s and BDSM relationships are. A lot of newbies ventured into that world because of her books and were taken advantage of by posers and wanna-be Doms. They had this erroneous romantic fantasy of what they were getting into, to their detriment.
What inspired “Sinful Liaisons?”
D: This one was a combination of personal experience, fantasy, and “What if?” There’s a scene in the novel where Sarah’s lying on a trampoline with her boyfriend, Mike, and his best friend, Peter. They’re laying out with the intent of watching a meteor shower, but the boys both fall asleep. Sarah’s left cuddled in between them and she realizes that she’s in love with both of them. That’s a real experience from my life – sort of. My high school boyfriend, his best friend and I all really did fall asleep on a trampoline, but there was no meteor shower–I added that part in for romantic effect. We were just out in the backyard talking and laughing and goofing off late at night. But I remember lying there between them, knowing I had a crush on the best friend and hating that it could never go anywhere. I realized that I wanted them both, and it was never going to happen. At the time I’d never heard of polyamory–no one talked about it back then so I had no concept of it as a relationship choice. I did what good girls did, and tried to forget about it. So when it came time to write a novel, I took that experience and said, “What if?” What if Sarah didn’t totally dismiss her crush, but instead pushed for that relationship? What if the boyfriend was okay with polyamory? What would I want out of that life if I could live it, and what would a reader want to see from that experience? I took a young woman at the beginning of her adult life and gave her a relationship that I never thought was possible when I was younger. It’s a good time to be a young person right now. The acceptable life choices are so much more diverse than mine were, and I think that’s fantastic.
S: Is there anything special you would like people to know about “Sinful Liaisons?”
D: “Sinful Liaisons” explores polyamory and Shibari–rope bondage. It was a fantastic dive into each of them. Figuring out how to describe bondage through words so that the readers could envision it without getting bogged down in too much detail was hard, but a fun challenge. “Sinful Liaisons” is the start to my Club Sin series. It’s set in a BDSM club, called Sin, where all kinds of kinky things happen. Each novel in the series will feature a new relationship with its own kinky dynamic. There are so many areas of the BDSM experience I’d love to explore, and so many interesting kinks other than Shibari. This series gives me a great way to get into it all.
Here’s the blurb–
Does the good girl who always plays by the rules dare to walk on the wild side and make her deepest wish come true?
Sarah has the hottest boyfriend on campus. Mike is the University’s star quarterback and he’s got the hard abs and killer smile any girl would swoon over. And he’s totally devoted to Sarah. So why can’t she get over her secret love for his best friend, Peter?
Peter makes her laugh, and he brings the kink to her life that she never knew she wanted. She should forget him and focus on her smoking hot, sweet boyfriend – but a moment of weakness during her twenty-first birthday party makes that impossible.
When Mike finds out will that be the end of their relationship? Or is there a way for Sarah to have both of them without a scandal that would ruin her in the process?
One thing’s for sure: Sarah’s tired of playing by other people’s rules.
S: That sounds like a very hot story! Where can readers buy your book?
D: It’s available from–
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